Have you ever noticed that some people put things away when helping clean the kitchen when they have no idea where they go?
What do you suppose that is about?
I know these people, and I just can’t believe they have ulterior motives. There are many of them. Some amongst my best friends. They are really trying to help, But I cuss them, nonetheless, when, a month after I have already replaced it, I finally find the can opener or the butter dish , or whatever, in the back of the utility drawer or on the second shelf of the cabinet to the left of the sink instead of the top drawer or first cabinet on the right or wherever it lives in my kitchen.
Sometimes I’ve devoted time I don’t have to searching everywhere I can think of for something I don’t use that often, but which I have to have to do the job.
These people mean no harm. Perhaps they go into automatic and just don’t remember that they are in someone else’s kitchen. Maybe they think when it’s obvious where something should go to them then it will be equally obvious, and the same place, to you. Maybe they want to set you a good example. Maybe they have no standard place in their own kitchen and spend half their time when cooking looking for things. Maybe that just doesn’t bother them, but it does m.
There’s potentially many very good explanations for what I regard as very bad behavior. And I find it an annoying trait that it bugs me so much. But, Jesus Christ, people! Most of the stuff in a kitchen is put away in places that are essentially arbitrary. The person who works in that kitchen wants only to know where everything is, so he/she can find it instantly without having to stumble over it when he/she doesn’t want it in the way.
There’s only one right place for it to be, and the guest has no way of guessing that place. If it’s identical-absolutelyl identical-to something that’s on the shelf, okay. We’ll grant that as an un-guess. But otherwise, ask where it goes (and listen to the answer), or leave it out. Please!