Okay, first of all, let’s clarify what we’re talking about here. Nobody is really concerned about a member of the opposite sex who has undergone, or is presently undergoing, sex change therapy walking in on them while they are undressed. That’s my opinion, anyway.
Someone who undergoes sex change therapy is probably interested in having sex with someone of their birth sex. It would make more sense to me to be afraid of someone who wants to undergo such therapy walking in. By North Carolina law, as I understand it, they would be required to do so against my wishes. So what’s really going on?
Why should we have to be afraid in the first place?
Why is the debate going on as if the solution were not obvious? The obvious solution is to make all publicly used rest- or changing- rooms private. Money might be involved, but whether the overall cost would be positive or negative is not entirely clear. Facilities, after all, would not have to be built in pairs. Meanwhile the obvious advantage of eliminating the inequality of the chance of encountering a line at the doorway to the men’s room or the women’s room, or of being propositioned by the guy at the urinal next to you, would be substantial.
The last advantage occurred to me when I heard an advocate for North Carolina’s bathroom law on the radio and found myself labeling him as “sounding gay.” “Unfair!” you may rightfully charge. But that is what happened.
And think about it. The only ones who like the two alternatives I see being expressed here are those few who would either lie about their sexual identity to fraternize in a state of undress with those to whom they are sexually attracted, or those who would use the status quo to fraternize in a state of undress with those to whom they are sexually attracted. Ether group, by my reckoning, would be frustrated by eliminating the fraternizing part from the equation.
What I suspect is really going on here is nothing short of a bias so many of us have against people who identify with the sex opposite that with which they have been labelled by society. I.e., those who would be interested in a sex change. They can just hold it, for all we care.
But if technology makes it possible to change how society sees us, why not? Do we really care what the sex of the person in the stall next to us is, or was at birth? Don’t we just want to be left alone?